| You were all fired up and have bought
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| | because it is so very simple! They found
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| self help books, tapes, CD's to play in
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| | a way to get started and keep that first
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| your car or while you jog, whatever.
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| | push going. It sounds laughably simple,
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| You've bought them on all kinds of
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| | doesn't it? Procrastination is the number
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| subjects, relating to one or usually more
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| | one cause of failure! You can't succeed
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| areas of your life that you KNOW need
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| | if you never start, right? The key to
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| improvement. You're frustrated now that
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| | making the most of self-help information
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| what you heard or read just doesn't seem
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| | is STARTING THE ACTIONS SUGGESTED AND
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| to be happening for you. Nothing is
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| | FINDING OUT HOW TO KEEP IT GOING.. I
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| changing!
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| | figured out after about a year of asking
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| When you first heard the recommendation
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| | people if they did readings and steps in
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| from your best friend about that book on
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| | the self help information I gave them and
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| relationships, it sounded like such a
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| | getting a "No" all the time, that I
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| great idea.... You actually went to the
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| | better find out what was going on. These
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| bookstore to get it. You read the cover,
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| | weren't willful or rebellious people.
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| the back, even the inside flaps, and got
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| | They WANTED to get better and knew they
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| jazzed up about it - "This is it!" you
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| | needed to take action. The answer 90% of
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| think, " This is what I've needed all
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| | the time was that they couldn't seem to
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| along!" A month later, the book cover is
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| | get started and the 10 %who did get
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| off, the book is face down by your bed,
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| | started, just couldn't keep it going.
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| covered in dust.
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| | Aha! So NOW you have the answer, the
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| What's wrong here? Well, don't throw
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| | missing ingredient, and it's simple.
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| anything away just yet! You're just
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| | Having the answer gets you on the path to
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| missing a vital ingredient. You're
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| | a solution, right? The ultimate solution
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| actually "this close" to using and
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| | is to find out how to get yourself
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| benefiting from that self-help stuff you
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| | started on the self-help information you
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| spent your hard earned money on.
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| | get and the best way for YOU to keep
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| I'm big on self-help anything, which is a
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| | progress going once you start.
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| bit odd, considering I was a mental
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| | Here's a start on what to do - Ask
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| health therapist; my income depended on
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| | yourself these questions:
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| people needing help from ME. Why in the
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| | 1. Am I clear on what area I need to work
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| world would I give the people I worked
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| | on? (You think it's money, maybe, but
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| with anything else other than session
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| | could it be the hectic, not enjoyable
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| time to get better, when coming to see me
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| | family routine of constantly eating out
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| was my livelihood? Cynical people won't
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| | is messing up the budget...So is it
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| believe this, but most of us got into the
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| | financial or family related?)
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| helping professions not to make money,
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| | 2. Am I clear on the suggestions given to
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| but to help others. I probably did lose
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| | work on that area of my life? Or does
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| clients to a self-help book or video, but
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| | this author sound like they have a PhD in
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| it didn't bother me a bit: See, I knew
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| | Economics and can't fathom how to balance
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| that life is lived OUT THERE in the real
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| | a grocery budget for 4 kids?
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| world, not the little office where people
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| | 3. Are the suggestions in the information
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| came for help. We ALL need all the help
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| | (book, audio, video, whatever) actually
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| we can get in the real world!
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| | "doable" for me? (Example: I bought an
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| One of the first things I did with most
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| | exercise video which required equipment
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| people is help them gain confidence and
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| | to do it that I couldn't afford at the
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| faith in helping themselves. I couldn't
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| | time, and there was no hint of that on
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| walk out the door with them; they had to
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| | the cover!)
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| help themselves to function and improve.
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| | 4. Are the people around me going to help
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| Self-help information was obviously a
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| | or maybe object and not help? What do I
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| valuable addition to therapy..
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| | do about that? (Accept, ignore or change
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| I never did think I could "do it all" for
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| | their minds, is my answer!)
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| any one client, anyway, no matter what
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| | 5. What inside me keeps me from getting
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| the problem was. I was just one person
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| | started? Negative thoughts? Real physical
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| who knew "X" amount about whatever was
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| | fatigue? How can I get rid of them? What
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| wrong - anxiety, depression, learning
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| | works best for me? (I recently had a
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| disabilities, adjustment problems.
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| | roadblock due to unexpected fatigue and
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| Everyone had multiple areas in their
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| | found natural energy drinks - fortified
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| lives affected by these troubles - daily
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| | bottled water, basically - that were
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| living, family, career, financial,
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| | almost an instant "cure" - I was amazed!)
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| spiritual, mental, emotional, and
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| | Another thing I found is that self-help
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| physical health....One hour a week wasn't
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| | information is often too complex and
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| going to cut it in terms of REAL help. So
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| | overwhelms people, so the thought of
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| I always tried to "over-deliver" and make
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| | starting and committing to something that
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| sure they walked out the door with lots
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| | detailed was paralyzing!
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| to do, including finding self help
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| | OK, one more question: If you got out
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| guidance and using it.
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| | that exercise tape or self-help book
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| It turned out often that people wouldn't
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| | again, could you start using it to help
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| invest the TIME needed for life and
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| | your life if maybe one thing in your life
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| self-improvement. They'd come for an hour
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| | were different? Usually that one thing is
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| a week to talk about things, but not
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| | FIXABLE. Maybe if you had more time, or
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| apply what they learned to life outside
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| | you could afford the needed equipment
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| the office. They'd buy the self-help
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| | (someone made a couple of the items for
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| books and other media I recommended, but
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| | me and I found dollar store substitutes
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| not read or use them. Failure to do that
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| | for others!), maybe if you had family
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| was almost always related to TIME. The
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| | support?
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| LAST thing on their to do list?
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| | I challenge you that ALL YOU NEED TO DO
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| Self-improvement. (That amazes me; I
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| | IS GET STARTED on self-improvement and it
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| believe we are our own greatest
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| | will work for you if you work on it. You
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| resource.) I know, I know, "Life" takes
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| | might need to reread or listen or watch
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| over and everything else becomes a
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| | the video. Perhaps you could find a
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| priority in front of what would really
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| | different author who is not so heavy on
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| make your life better.
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| | diagnosing problems, but heavier on
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| So I made it my mission to convince
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| | solutions. Maybe you need to go to an
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| clients that their lives would get better
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| | exercise class and get motivation from
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| and they could leave therapy if they took
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| | other people in the same boat as you.
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| the suggestions and self help steps I
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| | The books and CD/DVD's you have may not
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| gave them. Guess what? The people who did
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| | work because it often isn't presented
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| that - using the suggestions - got
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| | well on exactly what to do first, how to
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| better, left therapy and went on to
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| | do it, and how you keep it going! Your
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| happier lives!
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| | self-help information/ program WILL work
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| What was their secret? Those people did
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| | if you find out what to do FIRST and take
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| something with the information I gave
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| | the first step to do it. Once you start,
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| them and what they read or listened to
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| | use that momentum of accomplishment to
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| -What made the difference?
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| | keep moving forward. Any path is traveled
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| The answer - The secret ingredient I am
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| | one step at a time. No matter what the
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| talking about - that most self help
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| | speed, if your steps keep moving forward,
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| information is missing - is more
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| | you'll get there!
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| astonishing than you could imagine
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